Ta'areef-ae-a'jaaz : Never admire quietly

Lately I have read somewhere that, "I would love to refrain from saying I love you on funeral day rather than saying it on a normal daily day". I want you to realize how beautifully you've contributed to my life. 

It is a very old saying that you should never admire quietly. The logic is pretty simple.

There we have two approaches. Those who believe in a phenomenon of public appreciation can make people overconfident and egoistic.

The counter approach says it makes a person's presence acknowledged. They derive a sense of validation and happiness from an admiration which is loud and clear. 

I always have a firm belief in loud admiration that many people raise an issue against them assuming them as self obsessed people, considering that of as a narcissistic behavior and how people use it as a tool for gaslighting. But no, that's not the reality. 

Reality is enveloped inside the blanket of effective communication. People hardly want to make efforts. They're either on the side of the no-interaction zone or on the side of the first whoever interacts, they'll carry on the conversation. But initiative taking is not actually accomplished. That's the sole reason why they're afraid of throwing compliments. 

We have noticed one thing, that we are not that receptive towards absorbing compliments. Imagine yourself in a scenario where you dress your best and people compliment you. How awkward a situation can be. You'll start negating the situations and reply by saying, Nahi Nahi mein kahan, arrey tum merese zyada smart lag rahe ho, mein toh aise hi aaya jaise daily rehta. Stop! Stop using these terms, instead revert with a beautiful thanks and make them feel that you're genuinely happy after the reception of the compliment.

Admiring loud in public/expressive people can do a few very great things, such as:

1. There are lots of things which we are unaware of. Maybe people notice them and can bring them into our consideration. That can make a big difference. 

2. It can be a conversation starter pack if there exists a pinch of introvertism. 

3. There is no harm in making somebody's day. You can go with a smaller, small or sermon big compliment. It's all up to you. 

~ namann 🫀